Why Should I Share My Resolution with My Friends and Family? And What Happens When I Fail?

Setting New Year’s resolutions can be intimidating, especially if we’re resolving to chase big change. Approximately half of all Americans make New Year’s resolutions yet only 8 percent actually achieve them. What’s the strategy behind joining–and increasing–that 8 percent? What’s the secret behind following through on a resolution you’ve been dreaming about for years?

Previously, we discussed how to make New Year’s resolutions, not wishes. The first step to setting successful resolutions is admitting that you can’t do it alone. Community is crucial to making a real change.

Here are a few things you may be thinking, if not all of them at once:

What if I fail (again)?

I can’t stand to be laughed at or reminded of my lack of resolve.

Sharing my New Year’s resolution with others makes me uncomfortable.

Well, we have a few things to say in response:

First of all, you should consider making new, more supportive friends. Secondly, failure happens when you’ve decided to give up. If in 2017 you decide to pick up where you left off on January 6, 2016, then you simply can’t consider yourself a failure. Thirdly, you are probably used to keeping your resolution a secret because you’re even more used to not completing it.

We say screw that. Sharing your New Year’s resolution is a good thing. Here’s why:

Accountability. Duh. When you tell someone (with a decent memory) about your New Year’s resolution, the next time they see you they’ll be asking about your progress. Accountability can be a measure of your commitment. And that can be a good thing when you’re a little too good at talking yourself out of things.

Visualization. The Law of Attraction states that when “someone visualizes clearly and in detail what they want to achieve, and focuses upon that image, that they set in motion through the law of attraction a chain of events that eventually culminates in the materialization of that vision.” Basically, sharing your New Year’s resolution helps you visualize your end goal, therefore increasing your chances of completing it.

Clarity. Similar to visualizing your goals, whenever you discuss your resolutions with someone else, you slightly modify them. This could be due to suggestions or simply hearing how silly your resolution sounds out loud. Embrace when your friends and family challenge you; it’ll help you keep your New Year’s resolutions realistic and actionable.

Progression. This goes hand-in-hand with accountability but involves metrics. Progress is important and can help you see that your resolution is actually working. Sharing your New Year’s resolution with friends allows them to check in every week, effectively showing you how far you’ve come and how close you are to achieving your goal.

Motivation. Sharing your New Year’s resolutions with others can propel you towards completion if you let it. The mere fact that you told someone your goal can be an incentive. It’s OK to “use” others to reach your goal, as long as you don’t lean on them to complete it.

Connection. Sharing your goals, especially with like-minded people, can expand your social circle. When you take the time be a bit vulnerable, share a goal, provide progress updates, and keep in touch with others, you not only enhance your chances of reaching your goal but you also strength connections and lessen competition.

As important as it may be, sharing your goals should have a limit. Only you can decide what’s best for you. Before you share your New Year’s resolutions, meditate over your desires and solidify your action steps. Know exactly what you want, and simply go to others for support and accountability.

That being said, let’s discuss some competing research.

Lots of folks have been talking about the need for people to Shut Up! about their New Year’s resolutions. Studies done since 1993 support the fact that announcing your plans to others satisfies your self-identity just enough that you’re less motivated to do the hard work needed. We don’t disagree, but there’s a way to engage your community, ask for support, and still complete your goal.

It’s called Resolution Club.

Resolution Club provides a simple way to update your friends and family on your New Year’s resolutions, goals, and daily steps toward change. With Resolution Club, they’ll able to come alongside you to support and cheer you on. They can even complete your resolution with you, inherently increasing the chances of you making it through each day, month, and year.

New Year's resolution, Facebook, sharing your resolution

By utilizing Facebook, Resolution Club creates a community of support while we resolve to better ourselves and the world. Anyone you’re connected to on Facebook can log in to see your progress, encourage you, and even complete your resolution with you. Even the toughest of resolutions are possible with the help and support of your community.

We’ve restated this truth multiple times: Not all of us can do this alone. And that’s OK. Having friends and family who act as cheerleaders, coaches, and checkpoints is a great thing. Resolution Club doesn’t want you to face 2017 alone.